Did you get some games as a part of your Christmas or Hanukah gifts this year? Read on to find out how to avoid a family disaster while playing games and spending time as a family.
Family game nights are a cherished tradition for many, but they can sometimes devolve into heated arguments, reflecting the unique dynamics of each household. Understanding the underlying reasons for these conflicts can help families foster a more enjoyable atmosphere during game nights this new year.
To keep the spirit of family game nights intact, World of Card Games have teamed up with relationship and parenting expert Sylvia Smith from marriage.com to uncover why family game nights often end in disaster and how to keep the evening harmonious.
Why do family game nights often erupt into chaos?
Family dynamics
Family game nights often end in disaster because they tend to mirror the dynamics of family relationships, where differences in personalities, competitiveness, and play styles collide.
Sibling rivalries
Tensions can quickly arise when kids become frustrated over losing, particularly if there are existing sibling rivalries or feelings of unfairness. The youngest players may struggle to understand the rules, leading to further discord.
Clear expectations
Without setting clear expectations or focusing on enjoyment rather than winning, the playful atmosphere can shift into arguments.
How to keep the games calm and fun
Choose games wisely
Consider the skill levels of all participants. Select games that are inclusive, allowing everyone to feel engaged without frustration. Cooperative games, where the family works towards a common goal, can reduce competitive stress and enhance bonding.
Set expectations
Prior to playing, remind family members that the primary objective is enjoyment and togetherness, not just winning. Encourage a mindset focused on fun rather than competition.
Encourage good sportsmanship
Parents can model graciousness by demonstrating how to lose calmly. Celebrating effort over outcome helps children build resilience and understand that disappointment, as well as satisfaction, is a part of life.
Pause when necessary
If tensions rise, don’t hesitate to take a break. Address hurt feelings immediately and encourage open communication. A “cool down” period can work wonders, allowing everyone to reset and refocus on having a good time.
Incorporate laughter and snacks
Ensure that the evening is filled with breaks for laughter and refreshments. Shifting focus from winning to simply enjoying each other's company can transform the atmosphere of the game night.
Rotate game choices
To keep everyone engaged and prevent arguments over which game to play, establish a rotation system where each family member gets a turn to choose the game. This not only gives everyone a voice but also ensures that the games played cater to different interests and skill levels.
Create a game night code of conduct
Before starting the games, collaboratively create a set of ground rules or a “code of conduct” that everyone agrees to follow. This might include guidelines like “no yelling,” “respect each other’s turns,” or “focus on having fun.” Having these rules in place can help set expectations and reduce conflict.
A spokesperson for World of Card Games added,
“Family game nights should be a time of joy and connection, not conflict. By fostering an atmosphere of respect, encouraging good sportsmanship, and setting clear expectations, families can turn these gatherings into cherished memories rather than battlegrounds. Remember, it's not just about winning, it's about bonding and creating lasting relationships."
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